Family functions are normally small and select gatherings, unless they are a part of a wedding celebration. Whether it is a special puja, or the birthday of a child, food has to be prepared to suit the nature of the gathering, and to match the occasion.
Keep it simple:
These are your relatives, they know you well and they are happy to be in your home. Keep the food simple, do not make it too elaborate. Caterers always say that the amount of food which a person eats will always remain the same, so if you are making a greater variety of dishes, decrease the quantity you cook.
Cook the food of your state or region:
Like you, all of these people have grown up on food which is pertinent to your area. If you serve them a menu which consists of the foods which you have grown up on, then they will also be familiar with them and will be happy to eat them.
Cater for all ages:
Family functions, unlike those which are meant only for friends, have people of all ages. The grandparents will accompany the sons and grandchildren, an old diabetic aunt will need a special diet, a vegetarian mother will not eat food cooked from the same dish in which non-vegetarian food was cooked. Among family members you have to make food for all of them. You can cook a little amount separately for those who are on strict diets. Children can be given food in which there are fewer spices. It sounds difficult, but it really is very easy to do. Add the stronger spices to a vegetable only after you have taken some out for the children. A little extra care like this can help to make the food very popular.
Outsource some of the food:
You should also enjoy your family functions, and you cannot do that if you are going to spend all your time cooking and serving. Order some food from outside. Nowadays it is easy to get home delivery, and the prices can vary from the fairly cheap to the very expensive. You can cook some food at home, and get a couple of dishes from outside. After all, these are your family members, they are not looking for too much formality, at least you hope so!
Remember the rule of thumb always is that family should be served good, tasty meals which remind them of their homes and cities, and which are a part of their everyday lives.